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ADHD 404: Attention Not Found
A Local Support & Discussion Group
I was diagnosed with ADHD in February 2025 . This wasn’t after years of searching, or some dramatic breakthrough… it was while filling out assessment forms for my son’s ADHD diagnosis.
It was one of those slightly uncomfortable moments where you realise you’re not just trying to help someone else - you’re accidentally describing yourself.
Well, that kicked off a bit of a deep dive. I started reading, researching, and trying to make sense of
things that had never quite added up. Why starting simple tasks felt like pushing a car uphill. Why emotions could go from zero to catastrophic in seconds. Why memory sometimes just… wasn’t there.
Like most people, I didn’t want vague advice or inspirational quotes. I wanted something that was
practical and actually worked. So, I started building my own self-help documents. I made them clear
and “ADHD readable” (meaning I broke things down into smaller chunks).
Over time, those documents turned into resources I could actually use on a day-to-day basis… and eventually into printed guides for others to share. Some of the topics include:
• How to Make a Start on Getting a Diagnosis
• ADHD and Emotional Dysregulation
• ADHD and Memory
• ADHD and Procrastination
• ADHD and Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria
Alongside this, I was working with an ADHD coach. Part of that process wasn’t just understanding
myself better – it was figuring out how to turn that understanding into something useful.
One of the goals we kept coming back to was simple: Create a space where people can talk about this
stuff properly. There was to be no lectures or therapy… and I’m definitely not someone pretending
to have all the answers! This was just going to be a room where people can be honest about
how ADHD actually feels, day-to-day… and THAT’S where ADHD 404 came from.
What This Group Is
ADHD 404 is a relaxed, informal, and completely judgement-free space. It’s for:
• People with a diagnosis
• People who think they might have ADHD
• Partners of people with ADHD
• Parents of neurodivergent children
• Anyone trying to understand ADHD and related conditions
There’s no pressure to talk and no expectation to share. You can join in, sit quietly, ask questions,
or just listen and take some information home with you. It isn’t a structured meeting group where
we all sit around in a circle and speak one at a time. We just mingle, talk and I come round to
try and see where you want to be heading.
We cover real-life topics - the ones that don’t fit quite so neatly into a leaflet. Things like:
• Why motivation disappears at the worst possible times
• Emotional overload and saying things you instantly regret
• The strange mix of burnout and restlessness
• Relationships and misunderstandings
• Systems that work… until they don’t
And occasionally (read: most of the time), we’ll actually laugh about it - because if you don’t,
you’d probably scream.
What This Group Isn’t
• Therapy
• A formal support programme
• Someone telling you how to “fix” yourself
• A medical diagnosis or a place where you can find information on medication.
It’s a conversation. A place where people can compare notes, share experiences, and realise they’re
not the only one whose brain occasionally decides to go off and do its own thing.
Here’s the Important Bit
Where Is It:
The Jolly Sailor Inn, Looe
When Is It:
The last Saturday of every month
What Time:
It starts at 10:30 and fades away around Midday.
If you’ve ever thought, “Is it just me?”... it probably isn’t. Pop in.